(I've tried suggesting the trial separation thing, and he's determined there is no reason for it, because he KNOWS he won't change his mind).
Yep, heard that. Let me tell you from experience that you can't convince him that he MIGHT change his mind. Just makes him more determined. However, have you thought about telling him if he tries the sep and waits x amount of months/weeks....and still feels the same way...then you will sign the papers?
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He said I should get the surgery this summer, but I have no idea how I'd do it with recovery and kids out of school.
Ok, so he offered a solution. If you don't entertain this idea then you may be seen as unreasonable. Think about all the reasons you don't want to do it then and discuss it with him. Who will take care of the kids, etc. If the both of you can find solutions to these obstacles then you may need to go ahead and do it. If you can't find solutions then you made your case better and maybe he will see that you are being reasonable.
I do think you should stand your ground on the D, unless he makes some sort of compromise with you (trial sep). I would say don't make it any easier for him than it already is.
