Divorcebusting.com  |  Contact      
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 10 of 13 1 2 8 9 10 11 12 13
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 18,296
P
Member
Offline
Member
P
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 18,296
Oh.

Well, now that she crawled into bed with you, I would delete that part from your note, and just go with the rest of it.

Puppy

Joined: Apr 2008
Posts: 2,283
H
Member
Offline
Member
H
Joined: Apr 2008
Posts: 2,283
Was going to say the same thing, Jeff.

Did she let you hold her? Must have felt great and terrible at the same time.

You got me whistling the whistle part.

Grew up on Monty Python. I have my D11 and D6 trained at restraunts. After we finish eating, I say, "How are ya'll doing tonight?"(in my best english accent).

They both reply, "BETTER! BETTER GET A BUCKET!"

WW looks at us like were crazy (....perhaps one more morsel....)


Me 47, WW 38
SS18, D15, D10

Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08

"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."



Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 748
J
JeffSTL Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 748
Was going to say the same thing, Jeff.

Thanks Puppy and hopeful4her, I still want her to come to bed and tonight is her last night in the house.

I did hold her a little, it did feel great, just being able to hear her snore, etc,

You got me whistling the whistle part - It's addicting, I need to keep this song in my mind.

My W is leaving Oh boy, how did it ever come to this, yes puppy I'm all over the place, I want her to go, I want her to stay, I hope leaving will wake her up and if it does can I forgive her, if it doesn't can I handle it. What does God have in store for me. This next year is going to be interesting.

Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 126
G
Member
Offline
Member
G
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 126
Today is just a bad day for alot of us. It has been 6 months since I last laid in bed with my wife or talked to her. I think its milestones like this that make life manageable and more difficult at the same time. It's kind of similiar to your situation Jeff. You have and will keep going through so many emotions. The more I think about it, the more I still don't understand why people get to the point where they feel like their back is against the wall and they are caged and have to get out or "it will get them." What is that it? Your wife says it is the kids, my W said it was "stalking". But in reality, that "it" is just self serving and searching for the next high of an illicit endeavour.

Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 748
J
JeffSTL Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 748
Quote:
Germ04: The more I think about it, the more I still don't understand why people get to the point where they feel like their back is against the wall and they are caged and have to get out or "it will get them." What is that it?
Exactly she feels caged, I'm going to scream if I don't get out of here. She feels like she is going in circles, clean up one mess and then there is another, never gets ahead.

I was thinking about this today, becasue of her A. Is she just using this as a excuse because she wants out to be with the OM, I mean the kids will be is school fulltime, so they won't be with her all day, I know there is still housework, but I also help out with that stuff, is it that she feels caged or becasue of OM

Thinking a combination of both = MLC - I told her before, I can understand feeling trapped and wanting to get out, normal feeling with everything she has on her plate, but I cannot understand or accept the OM.

We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.

M45
W41
M10 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!!
Moving Van coming Saturday May 31st

Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 1,012
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 1,012
Jeff, I was practicing my guitar and this is one of the songs I was playing and it made me think of all of us, but especially you right now....

For No One by Lennon/McCartney

Your day breaks, your mind aches
You find that all the words of kindness linger on
When she no longer needs you

She wakes up, she makes up
She takes her time and doesn't feel she has to hurry
She no longer needs you

And in her eyes you see nothing
No sign of love behind the tears
Cried for no one
A love that should have lasted years

You want her, you need her
And yet you don't believe her when she said her love is dead
You think she needs you

And in her eyes you see nothing
No sign of love behind the tears
Cried for no one
A love that should have lasted years

You stay home, she goes out
She says that long ago she knew someone but now he's gone
She doesn't need him

Your day breaks, your mind aches
There will be time when all the things she said will fill your head
You won't forget her

And in her eyes you see nothing
No sign of love behind the tears
Cried for no one
A love that should have lasted years


Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 748
J
JeffSTL Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 748
Oh that hurts especially the line

Quote:
And in her eyes you see nothing
No sign of love behind the tears

I'm going to go listen to this song when I get home

wow, I know you hurt too Sara, I hope it gets better I don't want to feel this way forever, I just have to get through this weekend. This is life, unfortunately for so many people like me and you (you and I ??).

I have my babies, taking them to D9 softball game tonight, hope the rain holds off. Kids play on playground, we eat hotdogs, and candy (some) I have a beer or two, talk to other parents, cheer on D9. My babies are beautiful just like their mother. wow I'll have to find this poem I wrote, that's one of the lines.

I want to run home to someone who is waiting for me with a smile and open arms, a kiss, a hug a how was your day. Well maybe someday.

I'll check in later, thanks for checking in on me Sara

We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.

M45
W41
M10 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!!
Moving Van coming Saturday May 31st

Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 18,296
P
Member
Offline
Member
P
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 18,296
I'll be thinking about you this weekend, "Jeff in St. Louis." Good luck, and may the Holy Spirit give you peace, strength and comfort.

Puppy

Joined: Apr 2008
Posts: 2,283
H
Member
Offline
Member
H
Joined: Apr 2008
Posts: 2,283
It's the little things in life, Jeff. Simple things that we maybe once took for granted. Those are the things that will be missed the most.

Hopefully, WW will miss it, too and cause her to rethink.


Me 47, WW 38
SS18, D15, D10

Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08

"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."



Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 1,012
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 1,012
I remember one of the last nights I spent in the bed with my H, I just layed there awake listening to him breath and grind his teeth. His teeth grinding habit used to get on my last nerve. Now I miss it. Crazy stuff...but that is life now...

Check out that song sometime. It is on the Beatles Revolver album. I have always loved that song but the words never meant much to me until just now when I played it.


Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08
Page 10 of 13 1 2 8 9 10 11 12 13

Moderated by  Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Michele Weiner-Davis Training Corp. 1996-2026. All rights reserved.
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5