I was, indeed, surprised by your advice, as I have read a lot of your other advice, which is strong and tough and yet loving.
I've just re-read all of NDS' posts on this thread, and I guess he'll have to elaborate further on his past behavior, because I'm still not seeing it. (Did his wife NEEDS not get met financially? He just said "wants")
I know that a LOT of betrayed spouses assign blame to themselves, and moral equivalency -- unfairly. I've been coming at this from the perspective that NDS is doing that. Again, I could be wrong.
I'm still also not so sure that there hasn't at least been an EA along the way, although I dropped that angle since NDS was comfortable that there was no infidelity.
Anyway, enough of the hijack; I hope that clarifies to you -- and more importantly, to NDS -- where I'm coming from.
