Although it wasn't ILYBINILWY (that came later), or even asking for a separation. It was the day that my suspicions started. I feel like H literally changed from one day to the next.
H had been weird all day and he was in a play at the time that OW was helping with. That day he called and told me that he was going to lunch with some guys from work. He had never done that...always asked me to come even if it was just the guys. Then when he came home he said that one of the guys had forgotten his wallet so he had to buy him lunch. That was when I suspected something was weird. When I went to see him in it that night I hugged him afterword and he pulled away. I knew something was wrong right then.
Just really weird behaviour that day, and then when I looked back on the phone records that was the day the phone calls and texts started. It literally went from nothing at all to about 10 to 15 calls a day and a few dozen texts a day. That is just so strange to me.
Although, now that I am thinking about it...that was the last weekend of the play. He had been practicing/performing for about 2 months. I guess they didn't have to call each other so much because they saw each other for a few hours every night....and it was winding down...so maybe that is why the phone calls started so strongly.
Anyway, I am almost positive that H won't remember that date. Just getting close to it gets me to thinking about it. I can't believe it has been almost a year since all this started.
That was when I suspected something was weird. When I went to see him in it that night I hugged him afterword and he pulled away. I knew something was wrong right then.