That is, if a man treats his wife as a princess, that it, over time, may cause her to lose respect for him.
Again, in NORMAL circumstances I would agree that this is a concern.
Given NDS's treatment of his wife, as HE described, his current treatment of her is warranted and necessary.
Look, don't misunderstand me. Read some of my other posts around this board and you will see that THIS is not my typical advice to men who have wives who want to leave.
NDS's sitch very closely parallels mine in that I did not treat my wife like the gift from God that she was. I didn't quite treat her the way NDS is, but I did not show that I valued and cherished her.
I think that's what NDS is doing now.
And no, I don't expect him to literally sacrifice himself in the service of a woman who treats him like a doormat. That would be ridiculous and I'd be one of the first to stand in line and advise him to stop it.
She is NOT doing that.
She is LOVING their interactions.
Because he is being fun. Non-critical. Happy. Delighting in her.
All of these things are good.
And I don't see NDS suffering for any of this.
Yes, he would like some positive feedback right now. Frankly, I don't think he deserves to even ask for it right now. Maybe in a few more months. Maybe when things settle down a bit for them and life returns a bit to normal.
Right now his role should be to provide and serve. He must PROVE that he is really changing this time.
I think we actually are in agreement. Maybe the word "princess" bothers you and carries a conotation that I'm not thinking of.
I'm simply saying that he needs to cherish and treasure her, and that all his actions should scream out to her that he is doing just that.
His frustration and fear of her leaving is something that he just needs to find a way to deal with right now.
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
