He's "done". Period.

[7 Year Itch]

The only bad thing about bringing it up is he may see it as a desperate attempt from you to have him hold off on filing. When you asked him to leave did you ask him to use it as a "trial separation"? Something like you could separate and if in 3 months (or whatever) he still feels the same way then he can file? He may not be receptive to that though, my H wasn't. He was DETERMINED!

This is exactly how I think he took it. Although he said he'd be willing to talk about it. He said he still wants to file (I've tried suggesting the trial separation thing, and he's determined there is no reason for it, because he KNOWS he won't change his mind). He said I should get the surgery this summer, but I have no idea how I'd do it with recovery and kids out of school. Not to mention that I'll have to wear heavy thick support stockings afterwards. Always nice and comfy in 100 degree heat (another reason I planned on Fall/Winter for the surgery).

UGH. Oh well. Can't reverse it now. Kris, my H is as determined as it sounds yours was. He's like NOW. The reason he's not filing for a few weeks is because I told him once he files he cannot be in the house, and the place he originally had lined up to go fell through. So I did have the whole move out talk with him, and he is going to, but he now is working on lining up a new place to stay. He thinks it'll take a few weeks, then he'll file. He really doesn't want to have me served and I can tell is really resentful that he's being "forced" to do something that will inflict pain on me, and probably in the presence of thegirls. He doesn't get why I won't just sign the papers and let him file them so I don't put myself through that. I know he doesn't get it. And yes, I probably will be a basket case watching every car coming up the road, wondering if THAT is the process server. But I just cannot file as a co petitioner. He says he says, Co Petitioner/Respondant(of course he's had the forms ready) so if I sign with him I can still be a Respondant like I would be if I'm served.

I don't know, maybe I am being stubborn. I'm just going to make it harder on him, and myself more miserable by being served. But I just feel like this moral obligation to my vows, myself, my kids, GOD NOT to at all be proactive in ending this.

I don't know. I told him to please notify me BEFORE he files so I can prepare and he promised he would. Who knows, maybe once I know it's really going to come, I'll change my mind. I just don't know.

Anyway, I'm babbling. Leaving with the girls for our picnic in a half hour so that should be fun.

Hey, if anyone coming in here has any Sex Issue advice, I posted a thread in that Forum, and would love your input!

Chris