Why is it hard for you to be unreachable? Couldn't you just let the answering machine at your home and cell phone pick up and then only respond if it's an emergency?

I have a question for you. Telling your XH2B off. Is it making you feel better? Do you come away feeling good about it? Is it helping YOU? If this is helping you heal and feel better then go ahead and do it, but if you end up later feeling just as bad, why bother? Your XH2B should be completely "off your radar." You should be focusing on entirely on yourself and what helps you to heal. He should be like a renter/babysitter at your house. You should have no emotional feelings towards him either way. Let those go. HE doesn't matter!!!! It's all about YOU. Go out, have fun. Unless the "babysitter" is having a problem ignore his calls. Let the "babysitter" take care of it. Don't tell him any details about your life or what you are doing. He should be like some unimportant renter staying in your house. Ignore him!!! Start living your own life!!!!

Well, 10 years ago you were a happy young bride (gag me), but now you have an opportunity to be something else!!! How exciting!!! Sheesh go buy some sexy clothes and arrange to go out dancing tonight with some girlfriends. Go have a chocolate martini!!! In spirit I'll be there with you, clinking the glass and saying "Cheers!"

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.