Anyway, I go on medical leave in end of February. I don't have surgery until early May because surgeons kept passing me up the someone they thought had more expertise.
Here is the really "interesting part" of my story. After reading the emails myself for awhile and not saying anything to him about it, she sends him an email that says the time that she has given him is up, and he has to divorce or tell her it's over. This is what he sent her. He says he has problems (me, medical leave, surgery) that he can't fix right now and he understands that it is over.
She writes him another email and says I can't live without you, that he can continue to support me, and they are meant to be together. SO I deleted it before he saw it and blocked her address. THEN I set up an account that was almost just like hers, and told him that I (she) thought it best if we quit communicating, and wished him well. He sent her (ME) a beautiful email saying he would never forget her. I rewrote it, and resent it from his address to her. It simply said that I chose to stay with my wife and regret our past actions, and to go on with her life.
I had asked him if there was anyone else, he said no. He got home at the end of October, and had not told me, tried to leave or even discuss it till February. Then he said that he couldn't leave because of my surgery. So in my mind, he maybe didn't really want to leave or just couldn't bring himself to do it. Anyway, after the goodbyes, he wrote her a couple more messages saying how much he missed her, and how his life will never be the same and he would never forget her. Of course these really went to me. So I (disguised as HER) sent him a message telling him to please stop with the messages because I was with a man who was free to love me and had started to see him right after he left. He sent one last message that said all kind of wonderful things to her, and his regret that they couldn't work it out and be together.
I'll go to the next post because this is getting really long.
