I call it a MLC but I don't really know. My husband went active duty Army and was stationed in South America for six months. They lived in an apartment, ate at restaurants and had a driver. It wasn't exactly hard duty. The whole time he was there, he called everyday. He acted totally normal. He would write me emails saying he would be glad to be home,loved me and missed me. We have always had a loving relationship, very supportive of each other, and though our sex life had slowed down, I think we were happy and content with our lives.
When he gets home, he says the first night that he feels nervous or unsettled. We don't have a intimate reunion and spend our time visiting with relatives that missed him too. Eventually he says that he thinks something is wrong because he has no interest in sex. We make a dr. appt. and his tests come back normal. I mention Viagra, and he says it isn't that it doesn't work, he just isn't interested. I try to be supportive and say maybe he just needs to get back in sync with being home. Because we worked different shifts when he got home, it wasn't that hard to pretend things were normal between us, and he started doing overtime at work, so I wouldn't see him on weekends much. Finally I notice that while I am at work, nothing is being done at home. Like he wasn't even living there. I started monitoring our router and notice that sometimes he would check an email account that I knew nothing about.
He sits down with me one night and tells me that he is not happy. I tell him I don't understand what is going on, but it still didn't occur to me he was trying to say he wasn't happy in our marriage, I truly thought he was depressed and was talking about that. Anyway, we basically have the same talk a couple of weeks later and I still don't realize what he is trying to say.
The next day I install a keylogger. I find out he has a girlfriend in South America, and is telling her how much he loves her, and when he separates from his wife they can be together. I am devastated. I read nasty emails to each other, desparate emails, emails about him not wanting to hurt his wife, and emails that sort of sound like goodbye--"I want what is right for you, I understand if you to forget about me and move on with your life." blah blah blah". He was basically getting up in the morning, checking his email to her, and looking at porn all day. He would check his email probably every 20 minutes and write love letter emails to her that would take him a whole hour to make it perfect.I find out he is also calling her while he is at work with a phone card.
I am going into work and totally spacing out thinking about it. I finally confide in one person I trust, and that helps alittle. While this is going on, I also notice that my foot and lower leg are having a numb feeling. I go to the doctor and found out I have a cyst inside my spinal canal. And will need surgery.
I'll continue this in the next post so this one doesn't get so long
