OK would you believe she called back again? She said I could still come, could stay in another hotel and COULD BRING MY MOTHER! WTF? She HATES my mother!
Is she sending me mixed signals or have I just lost my mind?
She's crazy. And she's cake eating. My opinion is you let her go this one alone. Keep up the other 'niceness' though. Just let her be alone. I think she's finding that she doesn't like it.
Sleeper, it is confusing, she does seem to be sending you mixed signals. Maybe she is making both options (to go or not to go) open to you, so that you can choose. Maybe she wants to know what you want?
Like Bworl – just grasping at straws.
Nutty.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
The individual not in touch with reality or the individual trying to make sense of the actions of the person not in touch with reality?
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
I was upset but handling this pretty well until she made the comment about bringing my mother. That has definately rattled me.
On some level she must want me to go pretty bad to say that.
She wants me not too close, not too far away, just right. I'm going to start caling her Goldilocks.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
I took kids to her this AM to leave on their trip. Again she said I could come down and bring my mother. I was wearing sunglasses and she commented, "I can't see you eyes" (having trouble reading me?).
She mentioned concerns about finding the way on her own (I always drove the years we went together) and she couldn't find a map, asked if I would keep my cell on so she could call if she "need help." I responded, "You could stop and buy a map." OM was at house when I dropped kids off. I also asked if he couldn't help her.
Yes there is major cake-eating taking place.
This deal about bringing my mother still has me rattled (we never took her and she has never been there). Does it mean:
1. She would really like me to go and would even accept my mother there if it meant I would come?
2. She's goading me about my mother (whom she used to despise)?
Ego boost; I got asked out by a younger (than me or x-W) woman less than an hour after I dropped kids off.
I accepted.
Last year I sat around and was depressed while they were gone. I'm not allowing myself to do that this year.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
You're right on target. She called a few minutes ago to share something cute one of the kids was doing in the car. After a few moments she asked if she was making me mad. She was either trying to get a rise out of me to see if I wished I was with them or just rubbing my nose in it.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
I'm gonna do that tonight and every night while she's gone..
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13