Can it REALLY change?

[7 Year Itch]

Sex has always been an issue in my marriage. As in my husband wants way more than me. Although I have several contributing factors I believe for my libido issues. Childhood sex abuse, hormonal issues, and a female injury issue that happened with the birth of our 1st daughter that has made it painful at times. So yes, lots to combat.

Well one of the things I plan to do is seek counseling for the abuse. It happened at age 8, and I NEVER have had counseling or anything for it. Thought I'd handled it most of my life, but realize this is probably a subconsious factor to my low lobido. I'm seeking out a NEW Dr. for my injury issue as my old one has tried about EVERYTHING. I've already met with the new Dr. and she is convinced she can help me. Plan to have my hormones retested as I haven't had that done recently.

I AM very attracted to my husband and I DO like sex. Up until the bomb was dropped I was one of "those" women that believed it was purely physical for him, I didn't truly have an understanding of the emotional need it filled for him. That he needed that to feel love with me. I knew of course we didn't have sex as much as he would've liked, but I truly had no understanding the damage it did to our intimacy for him.

As we have discussed our issues, he has flat out said, that he thinks MOST of our issues could be fixed accept this one. He feels this CANNOT be fixed ,and he can't go on like this. He feels maybe I'd have more drive for awhile, but that things would go back to the way they are.

But of course I can't Prove that in a week, that'ts something he'd have to see over time. But he is just purely convinced it's the impossible fix.

If I only wanted to fix it for HIM then I'd agree with him. But I want to fix it for me too. I do like sex, and I want to WANT more sex too. I do want sex with him, and am attracted to him.

He's so resolved on the divorce at this point, it doesn't matter what I say. Are there any sources or books I could point him to that really show how these things CAN be overcome. I think he needs to hear it from someone other than me.

It totally freaks me out that THIS could be one of the sticking topics for him for divorce, when I feel so VERY much that it could be fixed and that I'm working on EVERYTHING now to do it.

Help.

Chris