We are having our ups and downs. That is to be expected. It took us years to get to "the bad place" so I expect that if we stick with it, it will take months to get to "the good place".
She still feels a "void", which she can't put her finger on. But, we are going to keep at it to see what happens.
I have recently decided to work more diligently to give her space and do things separately from her. For instance, last night when we got home from work, I told her I was going for a run. I ended up having a nice one hour run along the water, and she had time alone.
She is having huge challenges at work, and in the past this has always affected her mood at home. It is no exception now! She is not sleeping well, and she is very quiet. But she tells me it is because of work. That is all being sorted out today, once and for all, so we can get that behind us.
I have also taken a look in the mirror. I realize that her comment from a week or so ago, about me being "very accommodating" to her, is something I need to listen to.
I am definitely being too nice of a guy. It's my nature, unfortunately, but right now it is not helping the situation. She needs me to lead, to be decisive, to man up. So, I am thinking of ways I can still be nice, but with an edge. This will be a mini-180, and I'm looking forward to watching for results.
When they say you have to keep DB'ing after you get back together, it is true. Maybe not forever, but for now.
