being in love for over fifteen years with one woman is not something I can just forget
I know that one all to well Dode.
It is hard, if not impossible, to simply shut off the feelings you have felt for that long. Yet when they walk away from you, it seems they have done just that which makes it all the more confusing.
Am sure you have heard the saying that it is not the long fall from the top of the building that kills you, it is the sudden stop when you hit the pavement.
That is what it felt like to me. Sudden stop. Boom! All the momentum of the past just kept things moving when I suddenly stopped by hitting the wall of her ending our relationship.
The fact that she didnt even have the sensitivity to break it to me gently or get professional help unwinding what we had spent the previous dozen or so years building. Then she almost instantaneously moves on to another man... a friend.... in our family home?
(Wow.... when I typed that out I realized once again how bizzarre and painful that was).
How do they do that and not see how incredibly devastating that is to others?
I just cant relate. But fortunately I can relate to the people on these boards and that is where a lot of healing comes from.
The mere fact that we can relate to these same circumstances as one another has theraputic value like no other.
Anyway... thanks for the reply.
Ciao.
Chazz
Chazz,
I am right there with you in all that. My Dodo exW just dropped the bomb after two C sessions in which she said nothing but she "wanted out"...........
With my exW, it blew me away how she "forgot" how I supported her emotionally and financially while she was in school.... She forgot all of the struggles we went through financially in the early years to being where we were with a home in a really nice neighborhood (unlike the crappy neighborhood exW lives in now).....
What we both need to keep in mind is these women simply care more about themselves than they care about their M or their spouse.... It SCREAMS volumes about what type of person they are....
My exW had no spine at all... The first real "bump" in the road .... She was gone..... Oh, well... Based on her actions, she was really not worth anything...... That is just the way it is...
Take Care,
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
