He left then Cheated ---Now What???

[No Longer BH]

I think I just made a big DBing mistake. After hearing the news of the affair, I packed my son up and moved in with my family. They live 2 hrs away and I needed space to heal. H has been sending threatening emails saying he is going to go to a L asap if I dont bring son back. I called him up to say I was sorry that he felt I was keeping S away from him, that I was not. I just needed time to heal. The conversation then progressed into me pretty much trying to plead with him to remember all of the wonderful times we had in our 19 years together. Me agreeing with everything he said, and still trying to persuade him to work on us for the next 6 months. ARRGG! Why did I do this? I KNOW that begging and pleading does not work. Why is it at that moment I felt like maybe we were different than everyone else?!!?

Since I left on Tuesday his life has started to fall apart. He was demoted at work ran through all of his money for this week (has bounce 2 transactions) and is trying to deal with the stress of it all. Like he knows what stress is!! He would not admit that his R with OW is wrong, but hey, why would he when she makes him feel so good. He is going to let me know later if he is willing to try MC again. I just so hard to keep hoping only to let down again.