Wish I could read her mind>>>>

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Puppy--

From a woman's perspective, loving me unconditionally would make me feel like a princess.

I came across old letters from my husband--pre-marriage, where he talked about how fortunate he was to have me in his life and how I deserved to be treated like a princess. What happened to that? well, honestly I think I forgot to UNCONDITIONALLY respect him, as the Bible instructed me to do. You cannot have one without the other for the long term to survive.

Now, I have to work on the unconditional respect for a man who has had an affair, while praying he can find that unconditional love again. Did I tell him to have an affair? No, that was his choice. But, I did lay a groundwork that made it oh so easy for him to slip through that door.

NDS--

I also told everyone else how amazing my husband was. Unfortunately, I did not treat him like that in our home. I did not edify him the way he deserved to be. However, in the process of filling your wife's love tank with positives, do not become a doormat that will take anything and not speak out when you feel thigs are wrong. Doing this in a NON-confrontational manner will also show her that you love her enough to not let her do or say anything that she would later regret.

Good Luck. You are doing fine. I agree with the others, too. Validate, Validate, Validate.

SMW