I am done with the good fight - I am done with the war I am done with you
It was never the "good fight" because you never detached and let go. When a spouse dreams about the grass on the other side of the fence, you HAVE to let them go experience it. You have to allow them the opportunity to figure out just how green it is, where the weeds are, etc... the "fight" is making the grass on your side look better in comparision. And it's also knowing you are worthwhile and a "great place to be" no matter what the S decides. It's knowing that you and your family are the best place, and if a S decides otherwise, that's their loss.... but you did everything possible and have no regrets.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
