Worse before Better?

[Sophie]

I think something to shake things up is a good idea...he's been a fence sitter for a while now.

This State doesn't have a 'legal seperation' it's called 'limited divorce'...which is the same thing.

I would like to have the monies that he has been paying, put in an account for me to manage the bills. Heck, I'd save him money becasue there wouldn't be late fees.

I am afraid of getting less than I do now, though. I've really 'risen' to the occasion here. I gave up a career and my entire family life...I only lived in San Diego...for 40+ years and gave it up to move here becasue he wanted to be here and raise our kids here. 3 years later, he has a quick A, and a year after that...he walks out on me and the kids. I didn't give up everything and move across the continent to be a single, full time working, mom. I am raising the kids by myself. He never upholds any agreement, schedule, etc....He used to be a great dad. Now, he's replaced the kids and I with men friends that are worse off than him!

Sorry...to ramble. I'm new at this posting on DB.

I have been researching mediators, lawyers and then came across retrovialle....I sent it to him as he told ME to 'talk to someone'...he said he doesn't have the money to do it...so I found retrovialle.

I sent him the website, asked if he is interested, but...I haven't heard anything.

He hasn't fought to see his kids at all. He doesn't do anything...where we are concerned. He just thinks....when we talk...I talk...he thinks.

I am afraid to provoke something I do not really want. But, I realize I do not want a man in my life, or my kids life, like him...like the man he has changed into.

Truly....believe me...he used to be wonderful. He was a better parent than I at one time.

He just quit and left.

I do read and read and read about MLC. I understand it, I believe it...I think I went through my own which affected him...so I have been tolerant and patient. I just am done...but, there's more to that...sigh....