W is now out

[upside_downer]

I left her the message and haven't heard from her all day. I'm OK with that. After all, in speaking with my C, she said most people figure things out during a separation within 3 to 6 months of how they feel.

I agree with that sentiment for an initial thing, as long as there are clear things that happen between the two.

So far, I believe myself to be on that track. It's only been a few days, but I have not talked about the R, I haven't initiated contact other than returning a voice mail.

Interesting thing, though: My C suggested that the W and I need to discuss at some point in the near future our expected level of communication during the S, and also what we would like to get out of it. Goals in other words.

It sounds good because she told me "you have a life, and need to GAL. At the same time, you need to be able to able to move on with your life at some point and it is not fair to you for your W to leave you in the dark as to where you are headed with the S"

Hmmm...I agree with this to a point, but is that not the opposite of what DBing is? I'm not sure since I don't have my book yet (sigh)