I want to tell my wife how sorry I am and how much I truly love her.
The things that I thought were no big deal...just comments, just words....make me cringe when I think of them.
You're doing better than telling her how sorry you are, you're showing her.
I get caught up in massive guilt for the things I did to mess up my marriage, too. I know how you feel, it's gut-wrenching to admit to yourself that you hurt someone you love. But have empathy for yourself, too. You were hurting, so you hurt. Everyone makes mistakes. Too much self-recrimination can set you back on the path to hurting inside and lashing out.
Even from your posts I can tell you are a funny, caring, kind man. THAT'S the real you, not that critical guy. Just keep embracing the real you, and love that person.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
