Worse before Better?

[Sophie]

Hi Lissie,
Nice to 'meet' you...thanks for responding.

There are times I feel like I have a good grip on my life...and those times are when I forget he is out there...you know, when hours go by and then something hits you..'OH..ya...my H is jerk...I forgot about that!'

I read about mediators and then retrovaille today on this board. MY H wants some 'middle ground'...but, he doesn't want to do anything to establish it. He just doesn't want to apply any effort to anything where this house, me and the kids are concerned.

He probably didn't believe me, and has probably forgotten, that I said I'd start looking for legal arrangements. I didn't get specific b/c I'm not sure really where to start.

I've been researching and reading about, divorce lawyers vs mediators.

I see that retrovaille is recommended by divorce lawyers and mediators....so, I sent him a message to check out the link, that it is one form of mediation, face to face, that I would be interested in. I doubt I'll even hear back from him on that.

I read that retrovaille is usually only helpful at the end of MLC. I don't know if he is actually in MLC, or just turned rotten! But, it's been 3-5 years, and he is going down hill, not up....so maybe, he's ready for another 'change of life'???

Thoughts for me???

I'm feeling such ugly vibes from his side of town....and I keep reminding myself NOT to 'imagine' things.