Just the advice I needed. You both expressed it very well. I'm glad I'm not the odd person out here feeling weird when maybe it's supposed to come easier. I guess that scared me a little. Like DB and DR says, "its not going to be easy". But I believe if I do this, really do this for myself as well as for the R, it will be good no matter what. I am finding the more I make of my own life, the more I realize it's not my spouse that I need to "convince" that I'm worth it, its ME having to convince myself! Its a work in progress. I'm glad you are all here with me.
