In the past her refusal, would put me in a negative frame of mind.
For me still does , But it's more so when I get her in the mood with a foot rub or back rub, I get in the mood, then next thing she snoring.
Originally Posted By: John210
men can get aroused with the drop of a hat.
Thats probably true in most cases, but I'm not 16 anymore and my had doesn't always drop on command so I guess when does it drop I don't want to waste it. I think I'm trying to make the most of every opportunity especially as my barren spells have gone way beyond your 6 months. So it's not all pounce, ambush, grope I do set the scene get her in the mood (even a hint of romance) but when I do it well she always falls asleep. I've posted this here many times. (W falls a sleep)
FG. Complacency, I'm not sure, unless Frustration breeds Complacency then that's what you can call it. The tone of my posts may have changed, maybe because I struggle daily to keep a lid on my inner tutmoil which I do well and I'm sure things would fade away in time. I posted earlier to Sandi (Link) that rather than having W beg for forgiveness I would rather her just modify her behaviour so we both could relax and be happy. However when W behaves like she did during the bomb, or she talks to me like I've got S**t for brains or treats me like I'm a POS especially with what we've been through then it really does test my patience.
My frustration gets heightened with the fact that W doesn't want to discuss anything in case I say anything which will remind her of the recent past. So some of the things in our R that I want to talk about to try and straighten us out, we can't talk about. In fact when W spoke to me this morning I was surprised she touched on this subject matter, but then again I couldn't give the responses I wanted to cos I'm sure her behavior with OM would have been mentioned. Can't think why I would do that but I thought it best to validate, I can still remember how to do that.
No I would not say I am complacent I would more say I'm a different person who see the whole world differently. NFC, no my problem is I do have a clue now. I can see things, I can see both our mistakes past and present but it looks like it's up to me to keep us on the straight and narrow and not make these mistakes set us back.
