Oh thanks guys- you're the best! I'm so lucky to have you!
You're right- I should give him space and leave him to it. For some reason it's just hard this week. I was thinking, though- it's like digging for treasure, and not knowing whether there's anything buried there. You dig carefully with a trowel for ages, and then you see a coin (how exciting!). But instead of doing what I should do (which is keep digging patiently with my trowel), I want to get a big digger and hoik all the dirt out, coins and all! Silly me. Stick to my trowel. That's probably a bad analagy, but I'm working on it.
Can I ask you guys- do you think that while H is doing his thinking and working out what he wants I should back off, or should I just respond to his contacts in kind? I was thinking earlier that his cousins wedding next week might be hard for him. (He said it wouldn't be the same without me there when we were out on Friday, and it's the first wedding he'll have been to since we got married, as well as the first big family occassion without Grandma). So I'd like to be a friend, but at the same time I don't want to be in touch with him too much if he needs to be alone in his cave.
((((hugs all)))). Purr- I must come and visit you- I know you've had a hard time the past few days.
In other news, I went shopping with a friend today and she started telling me how she's having all these feelings for another man and thinking of leaving her long term BF because they've lost the 'spark'. Needless to say, I was not supportive of a decision to leave, and recommended Mars/Venus, LL and DB! Lots of reading for her! I also managed to get a nice little dress and a couple of tops, which was good- useful for sunny days, if they ever come.
