Its funny how they say it's not a walk in the park for them either. That this decision was necessary but difficult. Sometimes I think they just run because they don't know what else to do. They feel helpless. Some people choose to run and others choose to stay. Either way though our Rs as they once were are gone forever the only option is to change them and their dinamics. But sometimes the WAS thinks they, their spouses or the R is incapable of the change needed.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
And I have about 28 hours before we leave on our trip. I think a week away will be good for me. It'll give me a chance to look deep inside myself and my M and gain some new perspective.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
gforce...thanks for making me laugh! Or were you serious?
Ummm... do you want me to be serious?
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Its funny how they say it's not a walk in the park for them either. That this decision was necessary but difficult.
This drives me nuts. They are the ones that make the decision to leave, but then want sympathy for having to endure the process. Unbelievable.
You are going to have a great time on your trip. Have an awesome time. Do things you will regret in the morning. Send us a post card (but not with a return address on it - we aren't supposed to know that).
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Hi Lisa...yes if we can make it to the 5th day then we should continue. I think one of the worst things we LBS do is bring up the R too much. R talks are not a bad thing its how frequently we have them that isn't a good thing. Also they don't serve any purpose if they are always about the same things and nothing gets resolved.
I don't like how my H talks about his decision. I think what people say on these boards though "hope for the best and expect the worst". While we shouldn't have expectations we can always have hope.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Celtic music, irish beer, icebergs, old world charm quite the opposite of Venezuela I'm afraid. It'll be a good 8 days. And I hope I won't have to speak Spanish til I return.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Does that mean we have to do another 8 days after that?!