OK, really sick of not having the edit button, and obviously I mean to say my H and not my W!!!! Sorry to get you excited for a second Puppy!!! Karen
Karen, actually I was almost grossed out for a second! Been down that road before. ;-)
Jeff, have you ever called her on the comment about it's not about the other man? Ask her to look into your eyes and tell her its not about the other man. OF COURSE IT IS...if it wasn't why didn't she do this 3-4-5-6 years ago? Her not being about the other man is like you saying that you just want her to leave. Deep down, we all see that you don't want her to leave. You would give anything for her to stay as long as she would be faithful and rightfully so...you are married to her. A lifelong bond that can't just be broken.
She has part of you and you part of her. Its like making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, putting jelly on one side and peanut butter on the other. Then after its made, saying I want my peanut butter piece of bread back... Nope, sorry, it now has jelly on it too.
I say that example only to let you know that it has now been 6 whole months since I've talked to my W. Not seeing her or talking to her hasn't made it easier. I miss her, I wish I could've done more had she let me. In your case, don't live with regret. You have improved yourself. Now is the time to say, how do you like me now? You are a good father, a loving husband, we care for you, you're healthier now, in better shape... Now is the time to focus on her. Never, never give up. Malachi 10:13-16 says God hates divorce. The pain of her leaving will break you. It will be unbearable. Don't let her leave without giving it that last effort. Like a class act baseball player, run out that grounder to second in the bottom of the 9th and 2 outs. You never know when the other team will drop the ball. He will provide. Be strong, Jeff. You are constantly in my prayers.
Karen 