Jeff, she sounds a lot like my W. He wants to be single, less responsibility, able to run and bike and date whenever he wants, thinks he's in love with OW, not in love with me anymore. I do think it can be hard sometimes with that type of person. You can try one more attempt before she leaves as Puppy suggested to try to prevent her from making a huge mistake, but I understand what it's like when they're already emotionally checked out, thinks their new life will be "perfect": you know my H said stuff like he was going to have more money, more time (but same job), we'd all be happier, and all these other fantasies. It's hard to argue or compete with fantasyland! Karen
Karen