He's "done". Period.

[7 Year Itch]

Your husband sounds confused, just like my WAW did when she dropped the bomb on me. Don't believe anything he says and even less of what he does. He's not himself right now and may not be for quite some time. Keep in mind your H didn't just make up his mind with a knee-jerk decision. It most likely took months or years for his emotions and thoughts to evolve into the state they are currently in. Envision a huge emotional wall he's put up around him, which he built brick by brick. It took time for him to get to where he is now...and it will take time for each one of those bricks to crumble if that wall is going to come down.

This is so true, and what I'm really trying to focus on. I just wish he could put himself in my shoes for a minute too. I mean 6 weeks ago I thought we were in a "rough" patch, but nothing divorce worthy. I know for him this road as felt long so he's ready to move forward, but I'm still here going "Whoa, what just happened?". I get jealous when I read other posters who live in states that require counseling, or require a year seperation first etc. I really really feel that with DBing, and time this could turn around. But I feel SO rushed, like beat the clock time.

Well, you all would proud of me. I finally had one full day of LRT! Whew. Baby steps right. We actually had a few contacts yesterday because we each had a few things come up that we had to check with each others schedules for, but NO talk of us at all. None. I think in the last 6 weeks that is the first day of that. And it actually felt good. We had a nice dinner, then I told him that I'd like to get some work done if he was ok with that. He was, so I went in my room on the computer and got back to designing for the first time in 6 weeks. That also felt good. And I somehow have a lot of creative energy flowing right now, so it was productive. He came in to the room to get his work clothes set up. Everynight he comes in, gets his clothes and takes them downstairs (where he's sleeping right now). He had all weekend last weekend to himself with me being out of town, and tomorrow night and Sunday afternoon he has to work two events, so I told him that I'd like Saturday for myself if he was ok with it. He said yeah. So I'm going to get my haircut and brows waxed on Sat. Then I'm going to come home so he can see my "smokin'" self, then I'm going to gussy up just to make him wonder, then head out for the night. As of now I can't find anyone to do anything with, but he doesn't have to know that right. I'll just look dang good going to a movie by myself if need be! Ha ha.

Lost two more pounds. Can't quite figure it out. I am getting back to eating. Still not a ton, but I am eating now. Not going to question it though. I'm now only 2 pounds away from where I was when we first started dating, so at least he can't hold the "weight" thing over my head (which honestly, he'd be a schmuck if he did that anyway). But while everything around me is crumbling and I've lost confidence in lots, the one things I'm gaining confidence in is my looks right now. Guess I'll need that heading back into the dating world eh? Bad joke.

Obviously I'd much rather look great for HIM. Praying he gets a clue.

Hey question for you all. Have any of your talked to your In Laws through this? I have a couple of times, but not for a few weeks. Trying to decide if I should again during the LRT. I know they will discuss it with him, so that's why I'm not sure. I really love my inlaws, and miss them. I know they are praying for a miracle too, but still love and support their son.

Is it ok for me to contact them?

Chris