Well I finally got the info that I needed to move on. I think that I woke up on the Jerry Springer. Now I know that I live in Alabama and all, but I really didn't think that it would turn out like this.
My wife left me for her married with 2 kids, cousin. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, her cousin! Please throw a bucket of water on me!
Me 38 Her 31 Daughter 3
Dated 5 yrs Married 7 PA Bomb 7/26/07 Sep 1 9/1/07 Sep 2 1/5/08
Cue the banjo music. Sorry I couldn't resist. Is this cousin a first cousin?
Alone in Alabama, I'm sorry for the joke. Hope you're doing OK. Go find yourself someone who deserves you. You WILL be happy again. You WILL love again.
hugs
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Not her first cousin, but her third. Still her COUSIN!? She told me that it was okay because they didn't spend Christmas together as kids. Oh okay, yeah that's okay then. WTF!
Me 38 Her 31 Daughter 3
Dated 5 yrs Married 7 PA Bomb 7/26/07 Sep 1 9/1/07 Sep 2 1/5/08
Anyway, thought I would share that my first H hit the big 4-0 and took off with a young barfly. I filed for D out of self defense, GAL, and yes, we did get together for a few dates after his R with OW/barfly wound down. But that took five years and I had indeed moved on. So there was no reconciliation even though he admitted that he had f-ed up our M.
I have heard from so many people that once the LBS quits trying, then that is when the WAW will turn around and try to make amends. My question I guess is how many of you have heard this and what are the circumstances? Maybe we don't hear about these as much because the LBS has really moved on and won't entertain reconcillation at that point.
From what I have read, Men are more likely to try then women.
Thoughts?
Been divo almost a year (July) and about 2 weeks ago the ex sent a text asking if I would meet with him because he has changed. However, he still had his GF for at least another week after that, and blames her for their "break up" and still blames me for ours, without accepting one iota of blame himself.
Has not changed, but wants to put it all back on me and I have since moved on. Not with another man (or woman :P) but moved forward and am taking care of our D, which is my main focus (and still not his)
So I guess it is true.
However, the line I would NOT recommend a WAW S using is "I've done a lot of thinking and you just seem to be the best fit" because it sure didn't win any points with me
Good luck!
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I will have to make an observation. It seems that men come back way more often then the ladies.
I am trying to move on, but packing my little one up and watching her drive away with her mother kills me everytime that I have to see it. Her mother knows that it does and maybe she gets some joy out of it? Everybody says that she will realize her mistake but may never admit it. Only time will tell, I just hope that I have truly moved on by then.
Me 38 Her 31 Daughter 3
Dated 5 yrs Married 7 PA Bomb 7/26/07 Sep 1 9/1/07 Sep 2 1/5/08
