Although my h and I have been separated for 8 months it was only 3 weeks ago he told me that he felt unable to work on our relationship and it has been only since then that we have had barely any contact. Obviously this is frustrating to me but what doesn't help is well-meaning people asking me about it. When I say I am giving him the space he asks for, they look at me like I am being a fool, pity me and start to hint strongly that I should be initiating divorce. I want to shout
IT HAS BEEN 3 WEEKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why should I feel ashamed that I want to carry on working at my marriage? Ok, I have been really hurt but it is me being hurt and not them. They don't seem to understand that this is a huge part of my life and I am not 'over it' yet. I think they feel I am wasting my twenties on him, but this isn't how I feel. I don't see this as a waste of my time. I haven't put my life on hold too much, I have not stopped going out with my friends and doing things, in fact I am doing new things that I haven't done before. I just miss my h hugely and am suffering by having to play this waiting game which is frankly hard enough anyway without feeling pressured to 'move on with my life' as they seem to put it.
Does anyone have any tips about how to answer people? I am starting to resent people that are only trying to show me kindness and I don't want to alienate people.
