I'm not going to go. Knowing W, I think she invited me as part of her "friends, right?" campaign. Now that I'm out of the picture, I don't think she's using OM as a means of escape anymore, so I bet that R isn't really going anywhere though she still may be deluding herself with EA feelings for him.
Bottom line - if I go she'll still be enjoying my company and friendship, which is something she said she missed a few days ago. If I don't go, don't give her a gift, don't go out of my way to communicate other than for the business of D matters, she's going to face the fact that she can't count on my friendship and trying to start a new R is going to not be as great as she thought either.
As evidenced by that email I saw, she's starting to realize this is stuff she brings to a R as well. Now she needs to see that her Rs are always going to end in failure unless she takes steps to counteract her willful independence. IMO.
