Puppy: Is your marriage not worth some final attempts to reach out here? I'm not saying that -- intellectually -- your wife doesn't know where you stand. I'm certain she does. But she's also fogged out right now, making poor decisions, and you seem content to let the mother of your children walk over the edge of the cliff (figuratively), and tell your kids "There's nothing we can do; your mother wants to walk over the edge of the cliff. She's going to regret this, but all we can do is love and be kind to everyone we meet."
Well, doesn't that include your wife? Doesn't "love" in this sense include not just everyday kindnesses (which you certainly do), but some sort of a TOUGH love, whereby you reach out to her and offer your arm before she goes off the cliff?
What can I do ??? I'm not going to put up with there being a OM What can I do ??? my W doesn't love me What can I do ??? my W is in love with someone else What can I do ??? my W cannot handle the chaos of 4 kids What can I do ??? my W screams at the children
I called her this morning and told her D9 was crying last night when I asked D9 if she understood what her mother was doing. W said D9 was doing fine this morning, no signs that she has any problems.
As karen43 said: I might be wrong but it sounds to me like your W has already emotionally checked out of your R and from your kids as well - she has checked out. people all over this post say we cannot control our S, we can only control ourselves, we can do 180 stuff, GAL and go dark
I don't have too many options and I'm tired.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose that's important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! Moving Van coming Saturday May 31st
