L, On the sex thing, my W had similar issues...i never gave her the time to initiate etc. i would like to have sex with my W morning and night and if possible at lunch time as well. In the past her refusal, would put me in a negative frame of mind. I will also need to work on this (letting her initiate) even if it means that the frequency will diminish. The way I look at it right now is if i was able to not have sex with my wife for 6 months, surely I should be able to tolerate 6 days without it. One last comment on this man vs woman sex issue. men can get aroused with the drop of a hat, my W has told me that a woman needs to feel loved before she can make love. It's up to us to make them feel loved....maybe look at her LL and concentrate on that for a while. Good luck...let us know how you make out (that did not come out right did it?)
