Hey whatdidido, I'm here for you, why do I think W will regret her decision, 1. she has always told me and continues to tell me that I'm the best husband anyone could ever have, gentle, kind, understanding, giving, etc. 2. she has always told me and continues to tell me that I'm the best father anyone could ever ask for, I'm direct, I'm concerned, I'm involved, I'm patient, etc. 3. she has 4 beautiful children that she is walking away from. It doesn't feel that bad right now, but when she is working fulltime and they are in school fulltime, and they grow farther and farther apart, I think she will regret her decisions. 4. As I begin to move away from her, we have been each others best friends for years, as I begin to live my own life without her, I believe she will begin to regret her decision, she has already said to me, she is scared of me finding another woman, she is extremely jealous and to see me with anyone, will drive her up the wall. 5. As she gets back into the real world of taking care of herself paying her own way, bills, etc where you have to decide that you cannot go out becaue you don't have enough money, etc. 6. As she begins to lose the excitement of the OM 7. As our friends and family begin to understand what she has done to me and her kids.
Kat727, thank you for the prayers, I need them. listen to this, W had a interview tonight, she looked beautiful, I took kids to D9 softball game, W interview was at 7:00pm, its now 10:00pm interview is way over, she is out doing who knows what, I came home and I wanted to call her (I wanted her home), I was sooo tempted to call her and say, whats going on, why aren't you home helping out ??? kept thinking of you guys and where I'm headed and thought to myself, don't call her, leave her alone in her fantasy world. I have to get use to her not being here, I cannot call her and act like I want her.
See earlier post about W telling D9 about what is going on and D9 not saying much about it. D9 came down to my office to kiss me goodnight, and I asked her if she understood what W was telling her today, D9 said nothing and just ran upstairs to her bed crying. I took care of the situation, D9 and the rest of the kids have always heard the same thing from me, Mom does what she wants and there is nothing we can do about it. I have told them this again and again. When they expect mom to be at a softball game or do something with them she said she would and it doesn't happen, they understand, mom does what she wants and there is nothing we can do about it. W has let the kids down so many time already in their short life.
I need to check on the kids, I'll talk to everyone shortly, thank you all for looking in on me, Girls, Kat727, Karen43. whatdidido, Sara, goodnight and sweetdreams.
I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. Not just to W and kids, but to everyone I know and meet. This is me, this is how I want to live my life, this may not be the best course of action to save a marriage, but its the best way to live my life. Why is the right path is always the hardest.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! Moving Van comming Saturday May 31st
