Thanks lodo for the support. I do feel like I am being judged everywhere I go. Judged for deciding to divorce, judged for deciding not to divorce. I know I shouldn't feel that way and I shouldn't let other people get to me so much. This is my life and my decision. I can only do what I believe to be the best for me.

As for my H. I do think that he would take the settlement. The amount is more than what he wanted to save for a downpayment for the apartment. And I know that he talked to a L on the phone who told him that he wouldn't be able to get support from me (although the truth is that he could if he tried) So it would be the best for me. It is just so fast.

I will try to contact the pastor and have this talk with my H after this week. Really the end of the school year is INSANE! Once I move past this week and everything that goes with it, I will do those things. I just need to coast by for 2 more days.

Sara


Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08