in limbo and an emotional mess...

[SueS]

mzul-

I'm sorry. Your H seems to have picked a winner. Please don't take my response as being funny. It just seems like most of our H's pick people that don't measure up to us. I'm not perfect, I'm the first to admit. However, my H picked someone that he thought needed to be rescued too. It's a little different than the OW in your sitch. She's married, has 4 kids, a job, a great house, a husband who loves her....etc. She's not a bright one though and has convinced my H that she lives with a horrible man who just doesn't know how to love her like my H does. Unfortunately I've met OW & her H. He's not a bad guy. He worked hard and put a lot of hours in supporting her & their 4 kids (she didn't work most of their 20-yr marriage). He loved her, but not the way she wanted to be loved. Blah, blah, blah. I know I'm probably rambling. I just want you to know that I truly, truly feel your pain. I know that saying that doesn't really help, but I do feel it. This is my H's 2nd affair. The first one pushed us to the doorstep of D before we reconciled. This one.....well, we're both currently working on setting ourselves up for our new lives....apart. It hurts and there are a lot of questions along the way.

I just hope that your H can see the light brightly enough to know what he has at home and how destructive this OW is being.

Have a good night. I'll keep checking on you.

SueS