RTL, I know what kind of pain you are in right now, it is just so sad that people do this to each other. But remember I said that legal involvement brings a whole new demension to an R, and L's fuel the fire. If there is a trail there probably will not be many assets left to split. Hold your line with your L and the two L's will work out a deal. I don't think anyone in their right mind would allow a 2 time rapist ( who used drugs no less) and child molester take their daughter on a trip. Both L's know this ans also know people say crazy things in a D. So try to stay calm and let your L handle the financial negotiations. As for your W, if I were you I would not have ANY contact with her , only times and places for visitation, nothing else. Why would she be texting a 2 time rapist????? Perhaps that is something you may as your L. Enjoy your beer!