Yes, it is a baby step. But I know I'm forcing it. I'm not going to talk R or anything for two weeks, then take his temperature. If there's nothing going on, I'm completely dark. That will make it four weeks before Retro. That's my d-day.
And I've decided that I'm not going to file for a D, rather I'll file for a legal separation. Sticks with the "if he wants a divorce, he'll have to make that decision" yet allows me to set boundaries and let him feel the reality of the situation.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
