karen43: might be wrong but it sounds to me like your W has already emotionally checked out of your R and from your kids as well. I think kids are much smarter than we give them credit, b/c I know my kids figured that out before me I am pretty sure. Having the empty shell that is formerly your W around doesn't probably help the situation, and in my opinion, it is probably often harder having the WAS around when they are emotionally checked out and disconnected. I know it was painful for me and I imagine it is painful and scary for the kids as well.
She is gone, emotionally checked out, she says she has been for awhile. I don't care what she takes, as long as I get the kids.
The kids and I will have a great time together, as always, I don't think I want the kids to see the moving company taking our stuff, they would be confused.
It will be good for the kids, to see W every day this summer, and I don't think the full impact of what the W is doing will hit her until the kids are in school full-time and she doesn't see them everyday. - then I go completely dark, only contact with W when necessary, I'll hire a babysitter before I ask W to watch the kids
I made sure we were on the same page about the kids (when they go back to school) W knows and agreed today that I will take kids to school and pick them up, that I do not want her over at the house everyday (I'm going to change all the locks on the house when the kids get back into school) And W knows that she will have to give up the brand new 07 Chrysler Grand Caravan. She get the old 1997 F-150 truck.
FYI. canceled credit card, I have a credit card account and W had the extra card, if she needed it. I told her there was some unauthorized activity on the account so I closed the account.
Final thought - I wonder if she takes our wedding album
I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. Not just to W and kids, but to everyone I know and meet. This is me, this is how I want to live my life, this may not be the best course of action to save a marriage, but its the best way to live my life. Why is the right path is always the hardest.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! Moving Van comming Saturday May 31st
