Well I am sure that in a "typical" divorce you could do that. But my lawyer wants to try to make a settlement with my H. I will have to pay her a large amount of money for her to write up the paperwork. Once I check over the paperwork, H comes in and if he agrees to it and signs the papers, then in 14 days the divorce will be final and he will have to leave the house. So it will be pretty quick.
I want to explain to him that I am going to have a lawyer write up some paperwork and if he agrees to the settlement then we will be divorced. He has no real idea this is coming and I want to let him know so that he can really think about what he is doing. Once I give that money to the lawyer, that will be it. At least in my mind there will be no turning back.
That is very quick...wow. I think talking to him would be helpful, but don't give everything away. If he knows that the D will take the traditional route (longer) if he doesn't agree, then he might do that, just to buy himself some more time to waffle. This might just be the reality check that you H needs.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
