I want to explain to him that I am going to have a lawyer write up some paperwork and if he agrees to the settlement then we will be divorced. He has no real idea this is coming and I want to let him know so that he can really think about what he is doing. Once I give that money to the lawyer, that will be it. At least in my mind there will be no turning back.
I can understand that, and you have gone through a lot. I do have a feeling that your H is maybe not expecting this or at least things to be resolved/ended like that in a month! And with some of the things he has said to you, I would probably feel the same way about wanting to give him a last chance (it sounds like you are saying?). I do think if he doesn't give up the OW, full disclosure and all that Puppy always talks about then that means your H is choosing OW over you for whatever reasons (& do they really matter)? But you have to decide what you would feel comfortable with ultimately since you have to live with this. It sounds like you aren't 100% convinced so maybe one more talk with your H telling him the consequences if he continues to choose OW? Where's Puppy? I wonder what his take on this is? Karen
