W just called and said, she told D9 she was moving out. W to D9, "you know how I'm not at home much in the evening, well I'm not going to be home in the evening at all, because I got my own place" D9 didn't seem to care and W told her she would be there for them. I don't like this, its upsetting me, I will have to watch my temper as she walks away
I might be wrong but it sounds to me like your W has already emotionally checked out of your R and from your kids as well. I think kids are much smarter than we give them credit, b/c I know my kids figured that out before me I am pretty sure. Having the empty shell that is formerly your W around doesn't probably help the situation, and in my opinion, it is probably often harder having the WAS around when they are emotionally checked out and disconnected. I know it was painful for me and I imagine it is painful and scary for the kids as well.
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ID9 and D6,D6 were talking to me last night before bed about me not leaving them ??? I told them I would never leave them, that I would always be with them, (I'm pretty much the only one with them at night right now)
I think having seen your W emotionally check out on them (if that is the case) and soon to move out completely that must be scary and they are worried you will do the same. I know after my mom died (I was 4) I was worried my Dad would die also. It's probably kind of the same thing for them. I guess just being extra reliable, dependable, stable, not breaking promises and all the stuff I'm sure you are already doing, and they will realize that. Of course reassuring them like you did is important too I'm sure. I think kids are also stronger than we give them credit for too, esp. if they have a good solid parent still like they do in your case. Karen
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