Sara,

I think it's about your self-preservation at this point. You need to protect yourself and your future, because your husband is giving you no indication that he even cares about you or your future (even though I believe he does and he's confused and scared).

I know you say there would be no turning back once you give the $$$ to the lawyer, but why couldn't you have a change of heart if you SEE the changed ACTIONS of your husband.

I've heard a saying something like, "there are no 90 day miracles" and I think this applies, because two weeks isn't enough time for your husband to show any real changes.


M: 37
H: 36
Married: Aug 13, 2004
Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008
Reconciled: September 2008
Current: Ambivalence