Well I am sure that in a "typical" divorce you could do that. But my lawyer wants to try to make a settlement with my H. I will have to pay her a large amount of money for her to write up the paperwork. Once I check over the paperwork, H comes in and if he agrees to it and signs the papers, then in 14 days the divorce will be final and he will have to leave the house. So it will be pretty quick. Now if for some reason he doesn't agree to it, then I will have to file for divorce the tradtional way and he could get support and half of my retirement. She wanted to try it the other way, to just say that we will pay him for the house in order to save me from all of that.

I want to explain to him that I am going to have a lawyer write up some paperwork and if he agrees to the settlement then we will be divorced. He has no real idea this is coming and I want to let him know so that he can really think about what he is doing. Once I give that money to the lawyer, that will be it. At least in my mind there will be no turning back.

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08