W is now out

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I think the hardest thing for you will be when she gets upset with your not being at her beckon call anymore.

I agree. She was already upset at me for not calling her back and not really answering when she went on her vacation. She still doesn't understand the reason I didn't and still pegs it as selfishness on my part.

What you can say is:

Look, you wanted a divorce, not me. I was willing to work on the marriage. I don't have to call you back every five seconds like we're in a marriage. I have no hard feelings, I'm just busy with my own life now.

Couple things with this:

1. She hasn't decided on a D. Only S.
2. The way this is worded...doesn't it sound accusing/blaming? Saying "YOU wanted the D, not me"