Well, I think a lot of that is true, but I think your h is sincerely confused. I believe he does want to leave the OW, but he's afraid. I believe he does care about you, but he knows he can get away with his very bad behavior with little consequence.

I don't think anyone here would tell you to go through with divorce. No one can make that decision other than you. BUT, if you begin with paper work, it could potentially be the catalyst to let your h know that you are not going to allow him to treat you this way and it could be his wake up call.

xo,

M: 37
H: 36
Married: Aug 13, 2004
Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008
Reconciled: September 2008
Current: Ambivalence