I intend to be that man, I have no plans on giving in. But no I will never show her this place, I cant let her know any of these secrets as she is the one who is going through her issues right now. For all intense purposes, I plan on helping her get through this. And no I'm not looking for any quick fixes, and I have told her that even when we were going to marriage counseling. I'm going to stand strong, for my family even though she is not thinking straight right now. Eventually someday she will, and I will be here if GOD allows me to be. He is in control and I know that, thats why I pray often. I just hope he hears me.