I have to tell you this, there are no magic bullets or quick fixes here. If she is in MLC then Retrouvialle might be helpful, but...honest there are no quick fixes. I'm hoping that you don't see this event as the eye opening your wife needs to 'snap' out of this.
If you are your setting yourself up for one giant diassapointment, and well, possible failure.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK