Now fast forward to today, she says she is just not happy. We have the regular problems most couples have finances, trust issues, and we have put our kids infront of our own marriage for so long we have drifted apart from one another. So like I said last year she had some friends from her home town come to visit, and they went out clubbing like 4 nights in a row. After that, she has gotten back in contact with her ex, and when i looked at the cell phone bill, they used to talk for 4-5 hours a call. She went on and on about how they was just talking and it was nothing. Then after I told her that she has no reason to be calling him and vice/versa she told me she would stop but didnt. Now finally after a few months it was another guy from her job she started to confide in, I asked about that, she sent me an email saying that the two were close but it is nothing. So from that I fast forward to today. She is having an affair, it is to the point like she is so anxious to talk to this guy it kills her. I can run to the store and she is calling or texting him on the regular. Of course when I found about him like three months ago, of course it is someone I just met and it is nothing. her complaints are that I'm not their for her emotionally. Our finances have been broken for so long she feels hopeless they can ever be fixed. And of course the havoc my son has caused us. All I can say is everytime I offer a solution like our financies. I'm starting a budget in June, all she says is well that may not be enough. She says she just does not know what she wants, and she needs some time to think things through. All along she having this affair with this guy.
