He called me today and told me that he can't see himself with the OW. He knows that their relationship isn't going to make it, but he is literally scared to end it with her.
another text book reaction. Our MC, his IT, all his friends and family, told him the woman was bad news, he even told me he couldn't see himself with her (when we were together and the sh*t hit the fan) We even talked about how she owed guns, how guilty she made him feel and how she used him. Yet, he went back to her, didn't have the guts to fight for his M, his kids. It is about being SPINELESS and about you never knowing when he is ever going to grow a pair and leave ow. He feels he owes her, and of course she has her claws deep in him.
I know you don't want to end your M, but, the sad truth is, only be him fighting hard HARD and doing 180s would you ever have a chance. My stbx came home for a yr and a half, with half attempts to fix our M, we never had a chance, he never let go of his obsession and later on his guilt about "doing her wrong" overwhelmed any chance our kids and I had over him.
There is no timeline here, no MLC "wake up" date. Much like my stbx, your H is a confused emotionally/mentally weak man, he is right about having something very wrong with him (that part reminds me of my stbx's adhd/depression).
If her really wanted to stay in the M *nothing* should stop him, not even a D. For now, you have to protect yourself.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
