The down payment came from my life's savings as well as an inheritance I had from my Grandparents and I have made every single house payment for the past 2 years we have lived there. So he has given nothing towards the house. But at the time we were happily married and chose the house together, so how could I have known differently?
Sara is there something in the laws that address that? Illinois is not a community property state so if you have all of the records showing that you made the down out of your savings (marital property) and an inheiritance (could be non-marital property depending on certain factors)and you made all of the payments, they will have to take that into consideration.
I'm so sorry that its coming to this, I am going to have to do the same thing just to protect me and my kids from H's pregnant Troll, who is likely to take whatever she can get no matter what.
Good luck and I understand about the texts too...believe actions, not words. (((((Sara)))))
Well when I looked into that, the lawyer said something about how inheritence that goes towards a purchase of a house is marital property. I don't understand all of the legal stuff but basically I was told that he has a right to get half of the house. Which in all actuality isn't THAT much, but would be enough for him to get a half way decent apartment.
Since H doesn't seem to be wanting to end it with the OW anytime soon, it looks like this is the only route for me to take. Just offer him the money for the house and he signs the papers that ends the marriage. It will cost me a LOT of money (which my Dad is offered to let me borrow but I just don't have it). I am not comfortable with the decision. I want to talk to my H first and sort of tell him these things. But my work schedule and his school schedule don't match up right now. When I am getting off work, he is leaving for school.
Which leaves me here on the last full day of school. I have broken up 2 fights, had to sub for a teacher and have a very long meeting I am required to attend after school. Not a fun day in the least. Right now I have to focus on finishing up the school year. I figure I can really focus on divorce stuff after this week.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
